One thing stopping many ambitious professionals grow their own firm, is themselves. A lack of self confidence, despite being technically great.
Business plans help achieve your vision; believing in and delivering great client service is essential and you need to have a great tactical marketing plan. Even with these, self confidence lets many people down.
Have you seen these people?
There are many variations; do you know one of these?
- The doubter: A sublimely qualified Lawyer, great at what she did. Clients loved her, and when she got in front of prospects she was good. But, before many meetings she would convince herself that she wasn’t good enough, and refer them to somebody else!
- The crumbler: She would do well, until asked difficult questions. At that point she’d stutter, and try to save face by making up an answer. But as her self confidence had crumbled it was no good, the deal was lost.
- The mumbler: He’d stand up at (networking) meetings, announce himself and then his voice would drop, he’d mumble, shift his weight from foot to foot, then sit quickly. He’d start well, but then collapse as he said good things about himself, as he believed others didn’t want to hear them – but they did!
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6 tips to improve your self confidence
- Believe in yourself. What are your negative beliefs? When did you start to feel like this; what happened that may have made you to feel like this? List evidence to challenge them (nice logical exercise), write it down, refer to your evidence list when you’re feeling down. For example, if you believe you can’t deal with large firms, write down the large firms that have said great things about you. Why not doubt the doubts, rather than your ability?
- Positive thinking: Write down 5 things you like about yourself. What have your best clients said about you? What do your team think about you? What does your competition worry about when they’re up against you? Think about things you’ve achieved, add them to the list. Review this when you’re nervous or going into a situation that might previously have made you lack self confidence.
- Take up a positive hobby. I know, it’s nothing to do with work! Something totally different, can help you grow your self confidence. Now, why did I take up scuba diving?
- Your appearance! Sounds daft? Most people feel more confident dressed in certain ways. What would help you? Try it, what can you lose? Once I was told that sometimes I walked two inches taller and was more assertive; it was all down to clothes I was wearing. Making the right first impression talks more about how you dress.
- Sit at the front. In meetings, conferences and training sessions most people try to sit at the back of the room. Choose to sit at the front, create a habit. People will assume you have more self confidence; you will start to feel it.
- Stand firm. When you’re presenting, plant your feet firmly should width apart, don’t move them until you finish. Breath, look up and talk. Standing still and looking up makes you look more confident and feel more confident. Download our 16 page guide “Improving your presentation skills”, it's free and waiting for you to download right now. Click here for instant access (email address required).
Come back next week, for 4 tips to improve your self esteem.
What signs do you see in others that show a lack of self confidence, especially the “successful” ones?
What have you seen others do to improve their self confidence?