What do you think about arrogance and confidence? Is one good and the other bad? The difference could help your influencing skills and your ability to get more from your team.
Do you ever ponder on the difference between the two, or which is OK?
This article looks at the difference between the two and which is “good” or “bad“. If one is good and one is bad, it’s highly relevant to you getting more from your team, and others.
Many people admire confidence and see it as a good thing. How about you, what do you think of confidence, in fact what do you think confidence is? Please add your definition to the comments at the bottom of this article.
I don’t find arrogant people motivational. In fact I tend to dislike them (that’s probably my weakness). How do you react to arrogance?
What’s the difference between arrogance and confidence?
Here’s my list, but I’m sure that you can add more to it, your views will help us explore the subject:
- Arrogant people spend more time bragging, or talking about themselves.
- Confident people inquire and listen. They don’t get defensive when the response isn’t what they wanted, nor do they feel the need to disagree or even respond.
- Confident people don’t need flash symbols, they’re is happy to be themselves
- Arrogant people tend to drop names in to conversations, without a real need (other than their own need to be seen as well known and connected).
- Arrogant people are much more concerned about themselves than others, so they don’t listen. This also means they interrupt the conversation frequently. They may well be looking around the room for others to talk to (see how to improve your networking).
- Have your heard an arrogant person say, “I don’t know the answer, let me find out for you?” Confident people are more comfortable admitting and learning from their mistakes.
- An arrogant person feels good when somebody else feels stupid. They reference themselves externally (feel good by feeling better than somebody else). They will frequently correct other people; is that how they feel “confident”?
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Confidence in a leader.
If confidence is a good thing, that implies that it helps you to influence others. From a personal perspective I know that when I feel confident I’m better able to persuade an audience to do something. How about you?
But if confidence is admitting mistakes, would you follow a person that admits mistakes?
Arrogance in a leader.
What do you think of arrogance? Does arrogance make you better at running your firm and getting more from your people? You may push people harder if you’re arrogant, but does it work? Click here to read Dalek leadership styles.
The importance of defining arrogance.
If arrogance weakens your influence, consider who defines arrogance.
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Arrogance and confidence both involve believing in one’s abilities, perhaps it’s the apparent refusal to believe in other peoples that causes the appearance of arrogance?
When I started writing this was clear in my head, then I got to think the unthinkable – perhaps people perceive me to be arrogant! Where I think I am trying to help, am I interrupting and correcting, is this a display of arrogance? What is a “flash symbol” anyway, an iphone, a BMW?
What do you think about arrogance and confidence? Is one positive and one negative, is there even a difference between the two?