Have you ever wished you could get a more open discussion with somebody?
- Have you ever sat down and tried to have a good conversation with a team member where you really wanted their ideas, only to find that they were as closed as ever?
- Did you end up thinking, why do I bother?
- Did you sit and think “that was supposed to improve team staff performance, not waste my time”?
What’s more you have read all of the notes about how to sit around the desk or table so the meeting is more open and less confrontational? “Don’t sit on opposite sides of the desk”, that sort of thing? Yes, it does make a huge difference and you probably found it helps, but not enough?
If you want a different result, you have to do something different.
When I want great, open, discussions I get outside. It is different, it can be inspiring, and it really makes a difference. Neither of you have notes or desks to hide behind, the conversation comes more from the heart not the script.
You do not have to escape to the country, a path near the office or simple walk round the block will do; a walk round the block works well as you (subconsciously at least) both know the conversation will end as you return.
It works well for appraisals, development planning, feedback on performance and for general “blue sky thinking”.
Try it; get out and make your discussions more open – you will be surprised at the results. This two minute video expands upon the idea, try it.
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There is never a time as good as NOW to start changing things to be the way you want them. In fact, if you’re putting it off you should probably admit to yourself that it’s not going to happen. Try it today, have that discussion somewhere different.